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Fort Bragg News-Advocate
March 15, 2018
Grief Class for Professionals and Volunteers
By Julie Parker
“I think grief is something not so much to be healed from, as to be learned from.”
Dick Lumaghi, M.A.
Bereavement Services Coordinator
Hospice of Ukiah
Over 40 people attended the March 10th class, “Helping Others Move Through Acute Grief and Long-Term Bereavement,” led by Lumaghi.
Sponsored by Friends of Hospice on the Northern Mendocino Coast (“Friends of Hospice”), attendees included therapists, medical personnel, hospice volunteers, chaplains, and first responders, whose jobs include facing acute grief in diverse situations.
Lumaghi shared insights and experience from 30 years of working with the grieving. “Many people feel really frustrated at being unable to help someone,” said Lumaghi. “It's a process. It takes time, and care, and attention. This is very difficult for people who are trying to help, much less the poor person who is suffering, to realize that this process more or less proceeds at its own pace, not ours.”
Challenges faced when engaging with those in acute and deep grief include lack of confidence, or an inability to process uncomfortable personal reactions that can lead to burn out and avoidance.
In addition to Lumaghi’s presentation, which included interactive exercises, family therapist Cynthia Wall, President of Friends of Hospice and co-facilitator of The Compassionate Friends, shared the common steps of the grief process. “People don't know what to say; don't know how to respond,” said Wall. She also shared when and how to make referrals to therapists and/or grief support groups.
Tanya Wyldflower, Bereavement Support Group Facilitator for Friends of Hospice, shared the benefits of joining grief support groups. “People who do not have an understanding of grief,” said Wyldflower, “can do more damage than good in their efforts to make people feel better.”
Clearly, high attendance of the class indicated an interest to improve skills and communications when interacting with those in acute and long-term bereavement, to the community’s benefit.
Since 1988, Friends of Hospice has given direct assistance in the forms of medications, equipment, and caregiving to hospice patients. In the mid-1990s, they expanded to provide support to include those who were not designated terminal, but were suffering severe ailments. Its mission includes education about hospice values and compassionate services. Visit FriendsofHospiceMC.org or Facebook.
March 10, 2018
A One Day Class: Sponsored by Friends of Hospice on the Northern Mendocino Coast
Helping Others Move Through Acute Grief and Long-Term Bereavement
taught by: Dick Lumaghi, M.A. Bereavement Coordinator, Hospice of Ukiah
Professionals and volunteers in our coastal organizations encounter death, acute grief, and extended bereavement as an integral part of their work. When grief is not understood or acknowledged, it leads to additional physical and emotional suffering. Providers and clients are both affected, but few know how to seek or share support that will truly help. Knowing the right words to say, and to NOT say, is key.
This class will be useful for anyone who reaches out to those who are aging, disabled, seriously ill, or dying. We are offering this event to helpful community members as well as all levels of medical staff, social service personnel and administrators, counselors, and hospice volunteers.
Dick Lumaghi, M.A., Bereavement Services Coordinator for Hospice of Ukiah, will share insights and experience from 30 years of working with the grieving. Participants will learn how to respond to challenges grief brings and develop their own tools and techniques to further the grief process in a healthy direction.
The class offers concrete skills and information to…
- Increase confidence when engaging with those in acute and deep grief
- Process uncomfortable personal reactions that can lead to burnout and avoidance
- Facilitate referrals to support groups and other professionals
Date: Saturday, March 10, 2018 Time: 9:30A - 4:30P
Fee: $10 to $25 sliding scale (scholarships available)
Place: Mendocino Coast Clinics, Conference Room (West/Behavioral Medicine entrance) 205 South Street, Fort Bragg
Lunch: Bring your own to save time. We’ll provide dessert, drinks, and snacks
To sign-up or for additional information:
Call: 707-409-0464 Email: Cynthia@cynthiawall.com
Since 1988, Friends of Hospice has given direct assistance in the forms of medications, equipment, and caregiving to hospice patients. In the mid-1990s, we expanded to provide support to include those who were not designated terminal but were suffering severe ailments. Our mission includes education about hospice values and compassionate services.
Visit us on Facebook or www.FriendsofHospiceMC.org
The Grief Recovery Support Group meets Thursdays from 3:00 pm to 5:00 pm at St. Michael’s Episcopal Church, 201 E. Fir Street, Fort Bragg. There is no charge (but donations are accepted). The group is open to anyone who is coping with the death of a loved one.
Call the facilitator, Reverend Tanya Wyldflower, at 707-964-8987 for more information.
The Compassionate Friends for Bereaved Parents and Siblings meets every third Thursday from 5:30 pm to 7:00 pm at the Fort Bragg Presbyterian Church, 367 Sanderson Way, Fort Bragg. The group is open to anyone who is coping with the death of a child or sibling.
Call 707-964-5229 for more information.